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It makes me numb." She talked about eating three times the normal amount of food a normal person would eat in a day in one binge day. Imagine consuming 6,000 calories in a day. That is about 2 1/2 to 3 times the amount of food she was normally be eating, and about 2 to 3 times the amount you or I would consume in a day. So I told her, "Go through that experience in your mind" and she nods her head. I asked, "Is that through your own eyes directly or is that a little offset"? She goes in and checks it, and says it's a little offset. "Ok", I said, "I want you to see directly through your own eyes and go through the same memories, the same experience", and she says, "My brain won't let me". (pause ) Which I thought was kind of interesting, "My brain won't let me". And so I took out my pocket knife and showed her how sharp it was by trimming one of my business cards. Then I handed her my the knife and told her, "tell your brain: 'You are going to do this" or you are going to stab it in the leg". ( laughter ) "It will do it, it will do it" she cried out. (more laughter )
So she went through the memory again, this time fully associated without any displacement, and she said, "God this feels awful. I am way too full".
Now for some who is a binge eater that is a breakthrough. So, there's an idea you can play around with in different ways. I had one client I asked to do something with a picture and she said "I can't". She didn't even take a whole second. After she did this two or three times I yelled at her "You didn't take a whole second, now why don't you go ahead and try this". ( Wesley imitating raising his voice at her ) She exclaimed, "OK" (whimpering) Then, she did just fine. Sometimes you have to jar them out of their normal mind set. Because what you are really getting into is their belief structure about how their mind works. (to the unknown speaker) So you might try saying to the client, "There is no knob out there really, and you know there is no knob out there, but inside your mind you can make a knob and really pretend that it is working. Now, can't you?" Something like that, if that doesn't work try something else... something else...something else. Try eliciting strategies for the response that you want. Fred may I borrow you for a moment?
Fred: Of course, as long as you give me back.
Wesley: Yeah, of course, and I am going to give you another answer as well. Fred, do you have a car?
Fred: Yeah
Wesley: What color?
Fred: Burgundy color
Wesley: Ok, would you face out towards them cause I want them to watch your eyes. You probably never had a time when you enjoyed yourself?
Fred: Ha ha ha ha ( kind of mildly )
Wesley: Notice where his eyes are going. He's got some movies out there of some really good things. And he's checking a number of other things too. His eyes move really quick when he accesses stuff. So, could you just think about one of those and hold it there? Now, by watching where he looks, you can localize in space where he holds his thoughts. (Wesley pointing with his hand to the image ) He doesn't want my hand in his picture ( laughter)
Fred: Yeah, get out of there ( laughter)
Wesley: Yeah, that's right and what you can do is ask him, let's say, for example, if Fred wanted to improve his ability to remember certain details at work. Now let's just play with this one. Fred, I don't know if that is true for you or not. Probably not. I am just picking something out of the air, but let's just say it was something you wanted conscious recall of details in a particular situation. I don't know if there has ever been a time when you can remember clearly specific details easily. (Fred looks at a point in space somewhat down and to his left) (to group) So, now you know about where that image is? We also know that if there is a visual component, there are also some auditory components as well. He's nodding his head unconsciously. I'm guessing there is a synesthesia because he is looking sort of out in front of him defocused a little bit below the mid line of his eyes, because straight out would be about here for him. (Wesley gestures) So I'm guessing he's probably got a synthesia, which means he's mixing together visual, kinesthetic feelings, and/or auditory to make one thing, instead of having separate sensory references in each modality to represent that experience. So then, there are times and places you haven't been remembering as distinctly as you'd like to yet. (Fred's eyes move to another spot) So there is another location, as he is looking down and a little bit more towards the center. Now you have the information you need to manipulate an image, because you know where the images are for him. And you might say, Fred, "You know there is something you really want to change, and I know there are times when you've done it the way you really wanted to do it. (Wesley gestures with his hand "moving" the representation of the desired change context to the location of the times in which Fred had remembered with great detail) Anyway, you can just leave it there" I slipped his picture around, and that was a covert manipulation. Then I can say to Fred, "I know there are a whole series of times in the future now that you are looking at, when you want to have the new experience, and as you put them there in your mind that is only because you are listening to me at the moment... or not, and you want that, ( pause ) right ?
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