which is bigger, if the smoking part were making a sound what sound would it make, if the "I want to quit" part were making a sound what kind of sound would it make?"  Then what I will do is ask each part what its positive intention is for the person.  "The smoking part wants to relax."  Okay, so once she gets relaxation, we'll go higher and higher and higher in the hierarchy of values.  "Once you relax what does that do?  What is the positive intention of relaxation?"  'Comfort.'  "What is the positive intention and value of comfort?" ' Good health.'  So you might actually have someone smoking to be healthier. Ironic, to say the least.

On the other hand we have the part of them that wants to quit.  So we ask what the positive intention is, and the response is "I want them to be healthy."  'What's the positive intention of good health?"  "Have a happy life."  So eventually we get to the point that both will have the same intention or a complementary intention.  Then I will say to the part that smokes "So, have you noticed when you look at the other part's intention, that it is positive?"  'Yes.'  Then I will do the same with the other part.  Then I will use a little piece of hypnotic language, and have the person ask the parts if they would be interested in having a way of cooperating that would get them more of what they wanted for you and be more satisfying.  I didn't ask them if they would cooperate, I asked would they be interested in cooperating under those circumstances, and usually they respond with a "yes".  When I get a yes, I say "Okay, hold your hands up facing palm to palm, maybe a foot apart", and then another piece of hypnotic language, "and your hands will only come together with an honest unconscious movement at the same rate at which these two parts pull together, and form a new cooperative arrangement."  So we watch for that honest unconscious movement.  First, they will go into a trance.  They don't think they are.  Their eyes will be open and they will be talking, but their hands are moving by themselves. And, then I will have them, once the hands come together signifying the completion of the process, bring the newly formed part, or newly cooperating parts back into themselves and re-integrate them. That ends the internal conflict, and I expect them to have quit by that point. 
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